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DO I PERSONALLY RESPOND TO ALL THE E-MAIL |
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Yes! I respond to each and every one, this is something I am very Passionate about, I enjoy making new friends and doing whatever I can to help. I believe my experiences with bullying can help many people in many different ways. However I am 12 so please don't expect a reply during school hours. |
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WHAT IS BULLYING? |
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Bullying comes in many different forms, and affects millions of people worldwide, it's the dark secret that torments and ruins lives. Victims can be male/female, young/old, big/small, and affects those of every race in every corner of the world. Nearly every person has had first hand experience or knows stories about bullying. It has been around for so long it is often wrongly seen as 'just a part of life' or 'growing-up'. Bullying is about control! Bully's have low self esteem and want to put you down in order to make him/herself feel superior. This can be physical, mental or verbal, and can go on for any length of time. |
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TYPES OF BULLYING |
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Physical: This can involve being punched, kicked, bit, slapped, tripped up (on purpose), theft or destruction of property. Anything that involves physical contact that a person does not want. This type of bullying can for obvious reasons become very dangerous if not stopped quickly. |
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Verbal: The old rhyme 'sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me' simply is not true, words can sometimes hurt more than anything else. Being singled out and called names or having rumours spread about you. No one has that right over you, regardless if you are overweight, your skin colours different, gay, short/tall etc. etc... |
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Cyber: This relatively new type of bullying called cyber bullying is growing at an alarming rate. Computers and mobile phones are everywhere, giving a new and easy platform to spread rumours, and nasty things electronically. It is getting more and more common for abuse to take place in chat rooms, via texts, e-mails, etc. In an attempt to stop this the government are imposing fines of up to a £1000.00 to the parents of those doing the bullying. |
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Passive: Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied? Do you know of anyone that has ever been bullied, and done nothing to prevent it from happening at the time? If the answer is yes to either one of these, you are guilty of passive bullying. You have an obligation to help.... A moral obligation! |
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HOW DO YOU STOP BULLYING? |
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If you are being bullied then the most important thing for you to do is tell someone you trust, like your mum/dad, aunt/uncle, brothers/sisters, grandparents etc. This is the first step to stopping the bullying, there are more tips on my Top Tips page. |
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WHAT IF YOU TELL SOMEONE AND THEY DON'T BELIEVE YOU? |
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If you tell someone and they don't believe you, tell someone else you trust, because you have not told the right person. Try again and keep on trying until you are believed. If you would like I could contact someone for you on your behalf. The important thing is told! |
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WHAT DO I DO AFTER THE BULLYING HAS STOPPED? |
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You hold your head up high, with the knowledge that you have made a stand and stopped yourself being a victim. You a much stronger person, having been through what you have been through. You can also give yourself a pat on the back, for probably changing the lives of others, as most bullies tend to bully more than one person. Now you can smile, and start enjoying your life! |
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ARE YOU WITNESSING BULLYING? |
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If you have witnessed someone being bullied it is important for you to tell someone. Being in a crowd of people does not make you invisible, You have an obligation to help.... A moral obligation.
If you're afraid to speak out because you do not wished to be bullied yourself and cannot find anyone to trust. Then you can contact Childline (www.childline.org.uk) or call 0800 1111. Childline have fantastic trained counsellors that can listen to you and advise you what the best steps are to take. By doing this you will not feel afraid anymore.
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WHAT DO I DO IF THE BULLYING CONTINUES? |
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Keep telling Parents, Grandparents, Teachers and Friends about what is happening to you. Keep a diary of what is happening to you. If this is not working, then contact me with the contact details of the school or person you wish me to tell and I will tell them about your problem. |
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WHAT DO I DO IF I AM THE BULLY? |
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Some bullies may not even understand how wrong their behaviour is and how it makes the person being bullied feel. Do you like to make people feel afraid of you? Do you like to taunt and take things from them that are not yours? Do you feel excluded from your own group of friends? Is anyone listening to you? Is that the reason why you are feel alone? Is something troubling you for you to react in this way? Are you being bullied yourself? Have you said sorry to the person? Do they know why you bullied them? Did you just join in because you friends were doing it? Were you pressured into doing it?
Saying sorry to whom you have bullied is the bravest thing any bully can do. Also you will be more accepted that you have taken responsibility for your actions. We can help any child to understand how their actions are affecting other children. We can support them via email about this over a period of time. Any child needs to know that bullying is totally unacceptable.
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